Today’s episode is an interview with live coach and intimacy expert, Amanda Louder. We discuss how to change your mindset to increase desire and why that is so beneficial to becoming the best version of ourselves. We debunk several desire diminishers and talk about how to feel confident and sexy inside and outside of the bedroom.
To check out Amanda’s special gift to my listeners Roadmap to Personal Pleasure, go to this link: https://amandalouder.com/brighterside/
To find other amazing resources by Amanda, go to her website: https://amandalouder.com/ or her podcast: Live From Love on your favorite podcast listening app.
You can find my FREE How to Get More Support From Your Husband here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/husbandsupport and register for the 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge
Today we are chatting with my long-time friend Cami Hurst. Mom of 4, counselor, and sex therapist – she believes that our sexuality was designed to bring power, connection and pleasure into our lives.
She is a passionate counselor, educator, speaker and advocate. She hosts the podcast Sex Therapy 101, has her own private practice, and is the founder of the Association of Sexual Health Professionals of Idaho.
She is driven to help couples create LIFE LONG love stories. To do this we must know: The 6 principles of sexual health:
1. There must be consent, to prevent any emotional or physical negative effects.
2. Non-exploitation, where both parties are free from any power or extortion in retaining sexual favors.
3. Honesty, whether or not we are “faking” something or not.
4. Shared values, couples need to come together and agree on what is acceptable to prevent hurt feelings.
5. Protection from pregnancy and STIs– being honest about exposure.
6. Mutual Pleasure– both people have a right to mutual pleasure.
There is no “right way” to have a healthy sexual relationship. What is really comes down to is what YOU and YOUR PARTNER agree upon and are BOTH mutually satisfied with. Communication is key and it is important to understand what your expectations are in the relationship in order for it to be successful.
She also teaches us about the different forms of sexual desires. Spontaneous desire vs responsive desire. Spontaneous desire is what is most often portrayed in the movies or in books. “I am horny and want sex now”, which is mostly common for men. Whereas, responsive desire is when “sex is not on my mind, but you might be able to talk or touch me into it”. It is important to know that we are not all hard wired the same. You and your partner may not both feel spontaneous desire at the same time. But they may be able to respond to your desire.
Appreciating our partner’s differences makes for long term fulfilling partnerships- NOT striving for sameness.
To continue the conversation or learn more about Cami, you can find her at: https://camihurst.com/ or check out her Sex Therapy 101 Podcast.
The book she mentioned in this episode is called: Becoming Clitorate by Laurie Mintz, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062484389.
You can sign up for the 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge Here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge
As a part of the Sexual Health Series, today we are chatting with the amazing Kristen Jenson, author of the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures series. She shares with us; how important it is to talk with our children about pornography.
Kristen loves helping and empowering parents. She encourages them and equips them with what to do WHEN (not if) their child sees pornography. These books give children a simple and age appropriate definition of what a bad picture is, and what to do when they see it.
At what age, is it appropriate to talk to your child about pornography?? Well… “At what age does your child have access to the internet”? WOAH! A big eye opener.
Even with the best technology and ALL of the filters we put in place. There will come a time, when your child is staring at a screen full of adult content. Will they know what to do when they see it? Will they come home and tell you about it?
Kristen teaches us the importance of having these difficult conversations early on. It actually strengthens the parent-child bond when you face these challenges together and even more, helps our children have healthy sex lives when they are married.
If you have additional questions about your child and pornography visit ProtectYoungMinds.org or you can grab yourself a copy of these books over on Amazon! You can also find resources on Facebook, Instagram @protectyoungminds, or Twitter @ProtectYM
Be sure to subscribe to this podcast, so you don’t miss an episode and starting in July, every Friday, we’ll be talking to couples as part of our Conversations with Interracial Couples Series.
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Today I’m sharing lessons I’ve learned in 41 trips around the sun. It’s my birthday episode and I’m opening up about things I’m grateful for and what has gotten me to where I am today.
I announced our women’s sexual health series starting next week on the podcast and emphasis on Knowing Her Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage by Laura Brotherson on the YouTube Channel.
You can register for the 14 Day Complete Intimacy Challenge here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/14daychallenge
Book a Relationship Breakthrough Call with me here: https://calendly.com/onthebrightersideofmarriage/relationship-breakthrough
In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with my friend, Tony Overbay, a licensed marriage and family therapist and utlra marathon runner. We talk about the metaphors we’ve seen in long distance running to marriage. He also talks about setting goals for the new year, using principles of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. There are so many benefits physical activity can have on our mental and emotional health. Let’s make 2020 our BEST year ever.
Here is a link to Tony’s New Year’s goal setting episode from last year: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/2018/12/27/episode-97-resolutions-that-will-stick-no-really-acceptance-and-commitment-therapy-plus-resolutions-success/
You can find more of Tony over on his website: http://www.tonyoverbay.com/ or on Instagram @tonyoverbay or @virtualcouch.
And here’s a link to Tony’s new book: https://www.amazon.com/Hes-Porn-Addict-Now-What/dp/1950328031/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=tony+overbay&qid=1576794183&sr=8-1
Have a wonderful New Year’s and join us next week (year) for a discussion with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about New Year’s Resolutions.