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Healthy Sexuality with Cami Hurst

Today we are chatting with my long-time friend Cami Hurst. Mom of 4, counselor, and sex therapist – she believes that our sexuality was designed to bring power, connection and pleasure into our lives.

She is a passionate counselor, educator, speaker and advocate. She hosts the podcast Sex Therapy 101, has her own private practice, and is the founder of the Association of Sexual Health Professionals of Idaho.

She is driven to help couples create LIFE LONG love stories. To do this we must know: The 6 principles of sexual health:

1.     There must be consent, to prevent any emotional or physical negative effects.

2.     Non-exploitation, where both parties are free from any power or extortion in retaining sexual favors.

3.     Honesty, whether or not we are “faking” something or not.

4.     Shared values, couples need to come together and agree on what is acceptable to prevent hurt feelings.

5.     Protection from pregnancy and STIs– being honest about exposure.

6.     Mutual Pleasure– both people have a right to mutual pleasure.

There is no “right way” to have a healthy sexual relationship. What is really comes down to is what YOU and YOUR PARTNER agree upon and are BOTH mutually satisfied with. Communication is key and it is important to understand what your expectations are in the relationship in order for it to be successful.

She also teaches us about the different forms of sexual desires. Spontaneous desire vs responsive desire. Spontaneous desire is what is most often portrayed in the movies or in books. “I am horny and want sex now”, which is mostly common for men. Whereas, responsive desire is when “sex is not on my mind, but you might be able to talk or touch me into it”. It is important to know that we are not all hard wired the same. You and your partner may not both feel spontaneous desire at the same time. But they may be able to respond to your desire.

Appreciating our partner’s differences makes for long term fulfilling partnerships- NOT striving for sameness.

To continue the conversation or learn more about Cami, you can find her at: https://camihurst.com/ or check out her Sex Therapy 101 Podcast.

The book she mentioned in this episode is called: Becoming Clitorate by Laurie Mintz, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062484389.

You can sign up for the 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge Here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge

Planning Your Period with April Davis

Have you ever planned your work meetings and social calendar around your menstrual cycle? If your answer is no, be sure to tune into this episode! Today I’m having so much fun chatting with my friend, April Davis, the creator of the Vagina Blog and the Vagina Blog Podcast. She teaches women that when you cater to your cyclical nature, you find you have hidden strengths and that there is value in resting and respecting your menstrual cycle.

April compares our menstrual cycle to the 4 changing seasons:

·       Winter- is when we are menstruating. We are very intuitive during this phase and feel a strong need to hibernate. We tend to be attracted to warmer, nutrient dense foods and enjoy staying close to home.

·       Spring- is the follicular phase when we have an internal energy surge. This is a great time to take on big projects and utilize the extra motivation to take action.

·       Summer- is when we ovulate. We are “easy, breezy, and beautiful” during this phase. We tend to look better on camera and love being around people.

·      Fall- this is the luteal phase. We are in preparation for winter. During this phase, our hormones crash and we start to question every life decision we have ever made. We sometimes hate ourselves and our spouses during this time. It’s probably not the best time to take on a big new project at work or go on a fun family vacation.

So, the next time you are planning an anniversary trip, get your calendar out. Plan it around your cycle and go during your Spring or follicular stage right after your period. This way you are feeling “up for it”, have high energy, and are feeling adventurous. Your spouse will thank you.

Be sure to check out April’s resources mentioned in the episode by going to:

Website: www.thevaginablog.com

Podcast: The Vagina Blog Podcast

Instagram: @thevaginablog

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Understanding Female Sexual Wiring with Laura Brotherson

This week, I’m interviewing Laura M. Brotherson, certified sex therapist and author of Knowing Her Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage. Laura is one of my first mentors on this topic and I hope to follow in her footsteps, helping couples understand the true importance of sex within the marriage relationship.

In this episode, we discuss the 12 T’s of female sexual wiring and how each of them contribute to creating a truly transcendent experience for both partners. Here are a few of the resources we mentioned in the interview:

Also mentioned in this episode, I am doing a YouTube series on the Laura’s 12 T’s. Episode #1 on Transformed can be found here.

If you have any questions about anything you heard in this episode, you can schedule a relationship breakthrough call with me here.

Also, make sure you are subscribed to this podcast, because starting this week, we will be publishing 2 episodes each week. The second will be Conversations with Interracial Couples and you do not want to miss these important conversations.

Get Your Mojo Back After Becoming a Mom with Dana B Myers

As the summer heats up, we are heating things up inside of On the Brighter Side. Today’s episode is the first in our new Women’s Sexual Health Series.

I’m chatting with Mommy Mojo Expert, Dana B Myers. She is a mama, author, speaker and creator of Booty Parlor. She teaches Moms how to get their mojo back after having kids and teaches about the importance of pleasure. You do NOT want to miss this episode on how to become the happiest, sexiest and most satisfied mom in every way.

You can find out more about Dana on her website: https://danabmyers.com/. Be sure to check out her new program Thrive!

Join our FREE Facebook Group to get even more trainings, resources and special interviews on how to strengthen your marriage here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/otbsofmarriage.

If you have any questions about how to rediscover your sexy, sensual side, book a FREE Relationship Breakthrough call with me here: https://calendly.com/onthebrightersideofmarriage/relationship-breakthrough. You could be 30 minutes away from the healthy, thriving sex life you’ve always dreamed of!

Lessons Learned in 41 Trips Around the Sun

Today I’m sharing lessons I’ve learned in 41 trips around the sun. It’s my birthday episode and I’m opening up about things I’m grateful for and what has gotten me to where I am today.

I announced our women’s sexual health series starting next week on the podcast and emphasis on Knowing Her Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage by Laura Brotherson on the YouTube Channel.

You can register for the 14 Day Complete Intimacy Challenge here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/14daychallenge

Book a Relationship Breakthrough Call with me here: https://calendly.com/onthebrightersideofmarriage/relationship-breakthrough