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Live From Love and Desire with Amanda Louder

Today’s episode is an interview with live coach and intimacy expert, Amanda Louder. We discuss how to change your mindset to increase desire and why that is so beneficial to becoming the best version of ourselves. We debunk several desire diminishers and talk about how to feel confident and sexy inside and outside of the bedroom.

To check out Amanda’s special gift to my listeners Roadmap to Personal Pleasure, go to this link: https://amandalouder.com/brighterside/

To find other amazing resources by Amanda, go to her website: https://amandalouder.com/ or her podcast: Live From Love on your favorite podcast listening app.

You can find my FREE How to Get More Support From Your Husband here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/husbandsupport and register for the 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge

Greatest Day Mindset with Craig Smith

Happy Labor Day! Today’s episode is an interview with Greatest Day Mindset podcast host and licensed therapist, Craig Smith. He is actually interviewing me on all things sex and intimacy.

We talk about the importance of date night and flirting with your spouse as well as my book recommendations and how my husband and I deal with differences. This conversation is honest and candid and so much fun!

You can find Craig on Instagram @greatestdaymindset or his podcast on your favorite podcast listening app.

In today’s episode, we talked about my free downloads, which you can find here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/text-messages or here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/51waysinitiate

You can register for the next Seduce Your Spouse Challenge which starts on September 21st here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge

Love Conquers All with Katelyn and Kelvin Belser

Today we continuing our conversation with interracial couple Katelyn and Kelvin Belser. They met each other at church 14 years ago. But when they developed feelings for each other, and Katelyn’s family found out, they were forced to break up. They had to end their relationship and had zero contact for over a year.

However, when their paths crossed again, they could not ignore the spark they felt for each other. They believe, that when you truly love someone, you have to fight for that love. These two have an inspiring mindset about their journey and the struggles they have had to overcome. Coming from different cultural backgrounds, having different role models of healthy marriages, losing a parent to cancer and dealing with the lack of support from her family – has not torn them apart, but instead made them stronger together.

You do not want to miss this episode as these two might be young, but they are wise beyond their years. Their faith is strong, and their love for each other is even stronger.

Your Exceptional Relationship with Jachym and Natasha

Today we are talking with an amazing couple, Jáchym Jerie and Natasha Koo all the way from Malaysia. They are the Founders of YourExceptionalRelationship.com. Jáchym and Natasha have worked with people all over the world and created the Exceptional Relationship Formula, which takes away the guess work and puts your marriage back on track for more intimacy, love, and connection.

           In the last two years they have traveled all over the world and living in different countries for months at a time, working and just being together. They have noticed one common thread that can affect your relationship and it is the culture. Whether you are trying to define your role within your partnership, or you are just learning how to date with respect to what is surrounding you. They encourage everyone to learn what they want from their relationship and express that with their partners.

           Do you want an exceptional relationship?? Jáchym and Natasha have transformed their relationship past the nagging, hurtful moments to the blessed happiness they have now. All by identifying what is causing the unhappiness and the hard conversations that help no one. What comes after the honeymoon can be greater than anything else just by pushing you and your partner to get out of the rut you are in and listening to what is really happening in front of you!

For more information, check out their website

 https://yourexceptionalrelationship.com/

Healthy Sexuality with Cami Hurst

Today we are chatting with my long-time friend Cami Hurst. Mom of 4, counselor, and sex therapist – she believes that our sexuality was designed to bring power, connection and pleasure into our lives.

She is a passionate counselor, educator, speaker and advocate. She hosts the podcast Sex Therapy 101, has her own private practice, and is the founder of the Association of Sexual Health Professionals of Idaho.

She is driven to help couples create LIFE LONG love stories. To do this we must know: The 6 principles of sexual health:

1.     There must be consent, to prevent any emotional or physical negative effects.

2.     Non-exploitation, where both parties are free from any power or extortion in retaining sexual favors.

3.     Honesty, whether or not we are “faking” something or not.

4.     Shared values, couples need to come together and agree on what is acceptable to prevent hurt feelings.

5.     Protection from pregnancy and STIs– being honest about exposure.

6.     Mutual Pleasure– both people have a right to mutual pleasure.

There is no “right way” to have a healthy sexual relationship. What is really comes down to is what YOU and YOUR PARTNER agree upon and are BOTH mutually satisfied with. Communication is key and it is important to understand what your expectations are in the relationship in order for it to be successful.

She also teaches us about the different forms of sexual desires. Spontaneous desire vs responsive desire. Spontaneous desire is what is most often portrayed in the movies or in books. “I am horny and want sex now”, which is mostly common for men. Whereas, responsive desire is when “sex is not on my mind, but you might be able to talk or touch me into it”. It is important to know that we are not all hard wired the same. You and your partner may not both feel spontaneous desire at the same time. But they may be able to respond to your desire.

Appreciating our partner’s differences makes for long term fulfilling partnerships- NOT striving for sameness.

To continue the conversation or learn more about Cami, you can find her at: https://camihurst.com/ or check out her Sex Therapy 101 Podcast.

The book she mentioned in this episode is called: Becoming Clitorate by Laurie Mintz, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062484389.

You can sign up for the 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge Here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge