Today we are chatting with Phil McGilvray, also known as Mr. Money. I can’t think of a better time for this episode as Phil teaches us how to work together as a couple crises-proof our finances.
Phil has worked with families budgeting, planning and reducing debt for over 25 years, so he really knows what he’s talking about when it comes to creating a shared vision, budgeting and eliminating debt to crisis-proof your finances.
Phil shared his 10 step process in my FREE Facebook group and you can access that awesome presentation in the units section here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/otbsofmarriage.
You can also find Phil on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/phil.mcgilvray.9/ and his FREE Financially Fit Entrepreneurs Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/financiallyfitentrepreneur/.
I suggest you follow him in all the places and check out everything he as to offer, including his free Financially Fit Ebook.
Today we are chatting with my long-time friend Cami Hurst. Mom of 4, counselor, and sex therapist – she believes that our sexuality was designed to bring power, connection and pleasure into our lives.
She is a passionate counselor, educator, speaker and advocate. She hosts the podcast Sex Therapy 101, has her own private practice, and is the founder of the Association of Sexual Health Professionals of Idaho.
She is driven to help couples create LIFE LONG love stories. To do this we must know: The 6 principles of sexual health:
1. There must be consent, to prevent any emotional or physical negative effects.
2. Non-exploitation, where both parties are free from any power or extortion in retaining sexual favors.
3. Honesty, whether or not we are “faking” something or not.
4. Shared values, couples need to come together and agree on what is acceptable to prevent hurt feelings.
5. Protection from pregnancy and STIs– being honest about exposure.
6. Mutual Pleasure– both people have a right to mutual pleasure.
There is no “right way” to have a healthy sexual relationship. What is really comes down to is what YOU and YOUR PARTNER agree upon and are BOTH mutually satisfied with. Communication is key and it is important to understand what your expectations are in the relationship in order for it to be successful.
She also teaches us about the different forms of sexual desires. Spontaneous desire vs responsive desire. Spontaneous desire is what is most often portrayed in the movies or in books. “I am horny and want sex now”, which is mostly common for men. Whereas, responsive desire is when “sex is not on my mind, but you might be able to talk or touch me into it”. It is important to know that we are not all hard wired the same. You and your partner may not both feel spontaneous desire at the same time. But they may be able to respond to your desire.
Appreciating our partner’s differences makes for long term fulfilling partnerships- NOT striving for sameness.
To continue the conversation or learn more about Cami, you can find her at: https://camihurst.com/ or check out her Sex Therapy 101 Podcast.
The book she mentioned in this episode is called: Becoming Clitorate by Laurie Mintz, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062484389.
You can sign up for the 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge Here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge
As a part of the Sexual Health Series, today we are chatting with the amazing Kristen Jenson, author of the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures series. She shares with us; how important it is to talk with our children about pornography.
Kristen loves helping and empowering parents. She encourages them and equips them with what to do WHEN (not if) their child sees pornography. These books give children a simple and age appropriate definition of what a bad picture is, and what to do when they see it.
At what age, is it appropriate to talk to your child about pornography?? Well… “At what age does your child have access to the internet”? WOAH! A big eye opener.
Even with the best technology and ALL of the filters we put in place. There will come a time, when your child is staring at a screen full of adult content. Will they know what to do when they see it? Will they come home and tell you about it?
Kristen teaches us the importance of having these difficult conversations early on. It actually strengthens the parent-child bond when you face these challenges together and even more, helps our children have healthy sex lives when they are married.
If you have additional questions about your child and pornography visit ProtectYoungMinds.org or you can grab yourself a copy of these books over on Amazon! You can also find resources on Facebook, Instagram @protectyoungminds, or Twitter @ProtectYM
Be sure to subscribe to this podcast, so you don’t miss an episode and starting in July, every Friday, we’ll be talking to couples as part of our Conversations with Interracial Couples Series.
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This week, I’m interviewing Laura M. Brotherson, certified sex therapist and author of Knowing Her Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage. Laura is one of my first mentors on this topic and I hope to follow in her footsteps, helping couples understand the true importance of sex within the marriage relationship.
In this episode, we discuss the 12 T’s of female sexual wiring and how each of them contribute to creating a truly transcendent experience for both partners. Here are a few of the resources we mentioned in the interview:
- BOOK – Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage use the code ‘knowher’ to get the book for just $10.
- HANDOUT – “12 T’s of Female Sexual Wholeness“
- WEBSITES – StrengtheningMarriage.com and The Marital Intimacy Institute – especially Laura’s Resources Page
Also mentioned in this episode, I am doing a YouTube series on the Laura’s 12 T’s. Episode #1 on Transformed can be found here.
If you have any questions about anything you heard in this episode, you can schedule a relationship breakthrough call with me here.
Also, make sure you are subscribed to this podcast, because starting this week, we will be publishing 2 episodes each week. The second will be Conversations with Interracial Couples and you do not want to miss these important conversations.
My guest today is the founder and CEO of inkWELL Press Productivity Co. a multi-million dollar company providing tools that work as a catalyst in helping women do less while achieving maximum success. She is also the New York Times Bestselling author of The Joy Of Missing Out, which we will be discussing in this interview.
My favorite line in this book, which is the tagline is: live more by doing less. This episode is timely and full of great nuggets of wisdom as we navigate the uncertainty swirling around us and do our best to keep first things first. Tonya shares why we must let go of balance, how to find your yes and the best way to prioritize. Productivity is not about doing more!
Here’s how you can get in touch with Tonya:
The Joy of Missing Out book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07R4T8YVQ/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Tonya Dalton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tonya.i.dalton/
Tonya Dalton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonya.i.dalton/
You can register for my “How to Strengthen Your Connection During Quarantine” this Thursday at 2:00 pm MST here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/masterclass