Today we are chatting with my long-time friend Cami Hurst. Mom of 4, counselor, and sex therapist – she believes that our sexuality was designed to bring power, connection and pleasure into our lives.
She is a passionate counselor, educator, speaker and advocate. She hosts the podcast Sex Therapy 101, has her own private practice, and is the founder of the Association of Sexual Health Professionals of Idaho.
She is driven to help couples create LIFE LONG love stories. To do this we must know: The 6 principles of sexual health:
1. There must be consent, to prevent any emotional or physical negative effects.
2. Non-exploitation, where both parties are free from any power or extortion in retaining sexual favors.
3. Honesty, whether or not we are “faking” something or not.
4. Shared values, couples need to come together and agree on what is acceptable to prevent hurt feelings.
5. Protection from pregnancy and STIs– being honest about exposure.
6. Mutual Pleasure– both people have a right to mutual pleasure.
There is no “right way” to have a healthy sexual relationship. What is really comes down to is what YOU and YOUR PARTNER agree upon and are BOTH mutually satisfied with. Communication is key and it is important to understand what your expectations are in the relationship in order for it to be successful.
She also teaches us about the different forms of sexual desires. Spontaneous desire vs responsive desire. Spontaneous desire is what is most often portrayed in the movies or in books. “I am horny and want sex now”, which is mostly common for men. Whereas, responsive desire is when “sex is not on my mind, but you might be able to talk or touch me into it”. It is important to know that we are not all hard wired the same. You and your partner may not both feel spontaneous desire at the same time. But they may be able to respond to your desire.
Appreciating our partner’s differences makes for long term fulfilling partnerships- NOT striving for sameness.
To continue the conversation or learn more about Cami, you can find her at: https://camihurst.com/ or check out her Sex Therapy 101 Podcast.
The book she mentioned in this episode is called: Becoming Clitorate by Laurie Mintz, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062484389.
You can sign up for the 5 Day Seduce Your Spouse Challenge Here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge
Do you want to rock the sexual dimension of your marriage? Then join us today to hear from my good friend, Dan Purcell from Get Your Marriage On. Dan and his wife have been married for over sixteen years, have six children, and they are on a mission to strengthen marriages intimately.
This journey started when their own marriage went through a transformation. They thought what they were learning was too good to keep to themselves, so they started sharing it. They have put on events, written blogs, and have even created two apps that have been downloaded over 100,000 times! They did this in order to give couples access to resources to rock the sexual dimension of their marriage, because something magical happens when you and your spouse are on the same page! Sex is more than just your bodies joining, it is a symbol of the total union of two people coming together.
Dan talks about his apps and all the beautiful features they added! Just Between Us is an encrypted way to communicate with your spouse without anyone else having access to your private information or conversations. You can check out that app here: https://justbetweenus.app/r/otbs
Register for the FREE SEDUCE YOUR SPOUSE 5 Day Challenge Here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge
This is the first episode in our Conversations with Interracial Couples Series. Today, we are interviewing Sandra and Ryan Tanner.
Ryan and Sandra Tanner have been married for almost 8 years and they live in North Metro Atlanta with their 3 children. Their ages are 17, 14, and 7. They share how their roads lead them to each other after many years, the struggles they have been through and some great advice on making a marriage work. They are a beautiful couple with a rich story who believe deeply in teaching their children to respect everyone, regardless of their race, religion or gender.
I loved this interview and I know you will too. You can continue the conversation with Sandra at: https://www.optimizedlife.com/ or on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/loving_life_with_5/
As a part of the Sexual Health Series, today we are chatting with the amazing Kristen Jenson, author of the best-selling Good Pictures Bad Pictures series. She shares with us; how important it is to talk with our children about pornography.
Kristen loves helping and empowering parents. She encourages them and equips them with what to do WHEN (not if) their child sees pornography. These books give children a simple and age appropriate definition of what a bad picture is, and what to do when they see it.
At what age, is it appropriate to talk to your child about pornography?? Well… “At what age does your child have access to the internet”? WOAH! A big eye opener.
Even with the best technology and ALL of the filters we put in place. There will come a time, when your child is staring at a screen full of adult content. Will they know what to do when they see it? Will they come home and tell you about it?
Kristen teaches us the importance of having these difficult conversations early on. It actually strengthens the parent-child bond when you face these challenges together and even more, helps our children have healthy sex lives when they are married.
If you have additional questions about your child and pornography visit ProtectYoungMinds.org or you can grab yourself a copy of these books over on Amazon! You can also find resources on Facebook, Instagram @protectyoungminds, or Twitter @ProtectYM
Be sure to subscribe to this podcast, so you don’t miss an episode and starting in July, every Friday, we’ll be talking to couples as part of our Conversations with Interracial Couples Series.
If you loved this episode, please share it with your loved ones, because sharing is caring and be sure to check us out on Instagram at: www.instagram.com/monitanner1 for a chance to win autographed copies of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures.
This week, I’m interviewing Laura M. Brotherson, certified sex therapist and author of Knowing Her Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage. Laura is one of my first mentors on this topic and I hope to follow in her footsteps, helping couples understand the true importance of sex within the marriage relationship.
In this episode, we discuss the 12 T’s of female sexual wiring and how each of them contribute to creating a truly transcendent experience for both partners. Here are a few of the resources we mentioned in the interview:
- BOOK – Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage use the code ‘knowher’ to get the book for just $10.
- HANDOUT – “12 T’s of Female Sexual Wholeness“
- WEBSITES – StrengtheningMarriage.com and The Marital Intimacy Institute – especially Laura’s Resources Page
Also mentioned in this episode, I am doing a YouTube series on the Laura’s 12 T’s. Episode #1 on Transformed can be found here.
If you have any questions about anything you heard in this episode, you can schedule a relationship breakthrough call with me here.
Also, make sure you are subscribed to this podcast, because starting this week, we will be publishing 2 episodes each week. The second will be Conversations with Interracial Couples and you do not want to miss these important conversations.