Today we are chatting with my long-time friend Cami Hurst. Mom of 4, counselor, and sex therapist – she believes that our sexuality was designed to bring power, connection and pleasure into our lives.
She is a passionate counselor, educator, speaker and advocate. She hosts the podcast Sex Therapy 101, has her own private practice, and is the founder of the Association of Sexual Health Professionals of Idaho.
She is driven to help couples create LIFE LONG love stories. To do this we must know: The 6 principles of sexual health:
1. There must be consent, to prevent any emotional or physical negative effects.
2. Non-exploitation, where both parties are free from any power or extortion in retaining sexual favors.
3. Honesty, whether or not we are “faking” something or not.
4. Shared values, couples need to come together and agree on what is acceptable to prevent hurt feelings.
5. Protection from pregnancy and STIs– being honest about exposure.
6. Mutual Pleasure– both people have a right to mutual pleasure.
There is no “right way” to have a healthy sexual relationship. What is really comes down to is what YOU and YOUR PARTNER agree upon and are BOTH mutually satisfied with. Communication is key and it is important to understand what your expectations are in the relationship in order for it to be successful.
She also teaches us about the different forms of sexual desires. Spontaneous desire vs responsive desire. Spontaneous desire is what is most often portrayed in the movies or in books. “I am horny and want sex now”, which is mostly common for men. Whereas, responsive desire is when “sex is not on my mind, but you might be able to talk or touch me into it”. It is important to know that we are not all hard wired the same. You and your partner may not both feel spontaneous desire at the same time. But they may be able to respond to your desire.
Appreciating our partner’s differences makes for long term fulfilling partnerships- NOT striving for sameness.
To continue the conversation or learn more about Cami, you can find her at: https://camihurst.com/ or check out her Sex Therapy 101 Podcast.
The book she mentioned in this episode is called: Becoming Clitorate by Laurie Mintz, PhD: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062484389.
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Do you want to rock the sexual dimension of your marriage? Then join us today to hear from my good friend, Dan Purcell from Get Your Marriage On. Dan and his wife have been married for over sixteen years, have six children, and they are on a mission to strengthen marriages intimately.
This journey started when their own marriage went through a transformation. They thought what they were learning was too good to keep to themselves, so they started sharing it. They have put on events, written blogs, and have even created two apps that have been downloaded over 100,000 times! They did this in order to give couples access to resources to rock the sexual dimension of their marriage, because something magical happens when you and your spouse are on the same page! Sex is more than just your bodies joining, it is a symbol of the total union of two people coming together.
Dan talks about his apps and all the beautiful features they added! Just Between Us is an encrypted way to communicate with your spouse without anyone else having access to your private information or conversations. You can check out that app here: https://justbetweenus.app/r/otbs
Register for the FREE SEDUCE YOUR SPOUSE 5 Day Challenge Here: https://onthebrightersideofmarriage.com/syschallenge
My guest today is my good friend, Jessica Frew, who is a wife, ex-wife, mom, and step-mom. We are talking about the challenges she has faced and how she has come out of them even stronger. She talks about her two marriages and how she, her husband and her ex started a podcast together called, Husband in Law. They discuss how they have created a healthy family and working relationship with each other and how they have chosen to show up for their daughter!
She talks about how to keep fighting even when life deals you a seemingly impossible hand, and how feeling love, respect and safety with your spouse can truly create that emotional and intimate connection we all long for. With this beautiful connection, couples are able to express themselves and be vulnerable and share those parts of themselves with each other that otherwise might feel uncomfortable.
In her practice, she helps women understand that they are worthy as they are and to stop selling themselves short. She talks about the importance of understanding your self worth and taking ownership of any situation you’re given in life to start showing up as the person you want to be. Once you understand this concept, it doesn’t matter what anyone else does or thinks!
You can connect with Jessica on Facebook at @jessicafrew, Instagram at @husband_in_law or on her podcast, Husband in Law.
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It would really seem as if these two people came from two separate worlds. Claudia, being born and raised in Mexico until the age of 10 and JereMy, a bad boy from a large city in Texas. The two met while attending college where JereMy was working on his psychology degree after serving 5 years in prison and Claudia was preparing to attend Law School on the other side of the state. With the willingness to work together and continued devotion of time and communication, the two fell in-love. 8 years later, JereMy and Claudia have accomplished their career goals and have a young family. This may sound like a happily ever-after ending, but JereMy and Claudia, like so many other families have experienced struggles. Some of their struggles are associated with cultural background and differences.
In this interview, the couple shares some of their ongoing struggles and how they stay connected and dedicated to each other, their growing family and God.
Learn more about them, their relationship and the good they are doing in the world at: Ig: @minortomajortx and Fb group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thelifeafterprison
Get a copy of JereMy’s book Minor to Major here: https://www.amazon.com/MINOR-MAJOR-Turning-Setbacks-Come-backs/dp/0578682079
Today we are chatting with Alexandra Stockwell MD, author of the book Uncompromising Intimacy. She is a relationship and intimacy expert just like me. Alexandra believes that when both people know how to love and be loved for exactly who they are, the relationship is juicy, nourishing and deeply satisfying.
Alexandra is breaking the traditions of marital advice and teaching couples that compromise does not lead to long term relationship success. We should not let our spouse’s needs become more important than our own. Not to say that you should get your way all the time or that you dominate the relationship, instead learning how to be vulnerable with each other and honest about our wants and desires.
How do we do this? By cultivating curiosity, being curious about your partner and asking questions about what they like and don’t like. This allows us to be more curious about ourselves and we can learn and accept our own desires and needs.
Every interaction we have with our spouse that isn’t sex is foreplay. Moments throughout the day are either bringing you closer together or building up walls, resentment, and separation. We discuss ways to have difficult conversations with our spouses that can not only end with our desired outcome, but also builds excitement to get into the bedroom.
For more information, check out her website at: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/
To download and read the first chapter of her book for FREE go to: https://chapter.alexandrastockwell.com/
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